7/28/13

Today, I start my blog.  I don't have a ring on my finger, but I'm starting my blog.  Why?  Because I can, that's why.

I'm starting a blog about my wedding.  My future husband hasn't proposed yet.  I just want to get ahead of the game.  Unfortunately, I do this all the time.  I try to get ahead, get ahead, get ahead.  I used to do it in college.  I'd get all of my books as soon as the lists went up.  I'd start reading before I even got to school, not finish the book, then fall behind when I actually stepped foot on campus.  I'm not doing that this time.  I'm going to (hopefully) seriously think this through.  I need to start somewhere.....

My name is Gen.  Yes, it's spelled with a G.  Yes, my full name is longer.  No, I will not be posting that on the internet.  I'm 24 years old, about to turn 25 in a month, and I'm ready to get married.

I met someone, obviously.  His name is Kevin.  We met online, but I think I tell that romantic tale at a different time.  He's 27, going to turn 28 in November.

The best way to describe me is um...... brutally honest?  I laugh, I joke, and I tell it like it is.  I really don't get offended easily.  I'm plus sized.  I don't hate my size because of what others tell me.  I just hate going clothes shopping, you know?  Shopping plus sized really breaks the bank, and I don't have that kind of money.

The best way to describe him is.... the same as me, just a male and less angry about everything.  He's a really easy-going guy who gets along with almost every person he meets.  Everybody (I think) likes him.  Maybe he knows how to charm people, and I'm as charming as a billy goat.  Who know, right?

I'm starting this today 1) Because I have time and 2) This has been a crazy week for us.  Kevin and I have talked about getting married quite a few times.  He makes me happy.  He's all I think about.  He's my other half, and when he's not around, I feel so lost.  It's the way it should be.  So back to the point I was making, over the course of the past two years that we have been dating, we've been to three different weddings as a couple, and he went to a different wedding solo.  All of these weddings are for his friends, and in two of them, he was a groomsman.  Every wedding I go to, all I think about is "What cool things did so-and-so do that I can do?".  It leaves me wanting more.

So last Wednesday night, Kevin had dinner with a friend.  I've been asked not to disclose this conversation (Maybe a later date, just not at the moment), but apparently, Kevin felt inspired.  This led Kevin to hold a meeting with his "financial adviser", a.k.a, his father.  Kevin let me know about this because he declined a free dinner (and seriously, who declines free dinner?).  On my way home from work, he shared his worries about the conversation ahead.  I did nothing to assure him.  In fact, I pretty much told him that his dad is going to tell him that he can't afford to get married because of his spending habits, and his mother.....  See, I thought she didn't like me.  I'm pretty sure I read her wrong.  Kevin is her first born, and he also met me off the internet.  I'd be a little weary, too.  Anyways, the conversation was completely different than I had anticipated.  Great for me, right?

Kevin talked to my parents as well.  Because my mother hates everything about the internet (She doesn't have a Facebook.  She almost never buys anything online.  The list goes on.), I will leave my parent's reaction out of my blog.  I apologize, but if it comes to my mother about anything, I have to keep it of the internet.  I still live at home, and I don't have a door to my room.  She can do whatever she wants.

Saturday (yesterday) he and I kinda browsed the internet for the ring.  I know exactly what I want, and that's a problem.  I want a pear-shaped diamond, and the ring to be about 1 ct.  Again, I'm a pain in the butt and I know what I want.  I have been finding, though, that Etsy has been having some great prices for what I'm looking for.  I also have an Etsy addiction, but that's not the point I'm making here.  Yeah, I want a diamond, but something about having nothing but diamonds doesn't sit well with me.  I have a couple of rings in mind.  I searched all over Etsy, and while Kevin was having his "Man's Day", I emailed him links of rings I liked.  Then he says yeah, he bought the ring.  Stop sending me links.

So now is an appropriate time to start this blog.  He didn't propose yet.  I don't know when he will.  This is what I do know.

1) Kevin and I are going on a cruise to the Bahamas 9/7-9/14.
2) I have guidelines.  They are as follows:
    a) No food involved
      1)This means no restaurants.
      2) This means no putting the rings into something that I'm going to swallow.
    b) Nothing circumstantial.  My life is Murphy's Law.  The whole thing will be ruined and I'll be upset.
    c) No parents!  Not mine, not his.
3) My cousin gets married on 9/28.  It will be before then.
4) I may have stated to Kevin multiple times that it really should happen on the cruise, if it is going to happen at all.  I can't guarantee that I have sweet and pleasant about that.  His response was "Well, since you're making such a big stink about it being on the cruise, I'm purposely not doing that now."

Otherwise, I don't know how he's going to do it.  I just want to feel legitimate about posting wedding ideas on Pinterest now and not looking like a loony-bin.

So here is the first post into my hopeful future.  I plan on updating at least once a week. So.... here it goes.  My Non-Normal Wedding.